Put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. Then, breathe.
Flight attendants remind us of this every time we get on a plane.
In the case of emergency, or even just to be at your best every day, we should take care of ourselves first.
“Self-care” is a buzzword concept lately, and one that I’ve tended to push aside as too touchy-feeling and not as important as things like planning or assessing results. However, the basics of making others–teams and individuals–better involves having a handle on our own health and well-being.
It’s true. To be a great resource for others we should be at our best. What can you do to make your own situation better, healthier or more clear?
Maybe it’s eating, sleeping, hydrating or something else physical; maybe it’s making time to talk to others or read or just think. Experiment with doing or not doing things differently and see how you can become a better resource to those around you by having yourself taken care of first.
If you make it, then you’re a fake?
Making it ain’t all that. Faking it’s just what we do. It’s all a fake operation until we test it, believe in it and make it a must-do for our personal system. Even then you might not be fully bought in.
So, yes, “fake it”, but don’t call it that. Be, then do, then you have what you have.
Rinse and repeat and love the mess!
Forward momentum is enhanced by testing, guessing, making mistakes and accepting partial credit or incomplete solutions.
We’re told to work intentionally now, but…be ok with thinking about the future, but…not too much.
We pass along this approach to our players, too.
The present is important, yet fleeting. It’s easy to either be complacent, or consistently dissatisfied.
Do you feel this? Do you pass along this angst to your team?
Working to be our best, currently, is really all we can do.
It takes an inner peace (conscious or not) to be satisfied right now, to not ruminate on the past or solely anticipate the future. When “what about…” comes into play we become less content.
Who’s missing, and who’s not? There is FOMO, Fear of Missing Out, and there is reverse FOMO…the idea that you’re doing something great, and someone is missing it.
When you wonder why people don’t want to do what you’re doing. When you invite someone and they decline. Do you worry about those people too much and not enjoy yourself as much as you could?
Our obsession with the past and the future, our challenge to enjoy who we are and who we are with at this moment, to be satisfied, period. It’s so easy to get excited about the things our future self is going to do, or to reminisce of times gone by. It’s somehow harder to just enjoy. THIS IS GREAT!, right now, is good enough.
Take time to enjoy those who are there, with you, to make the most of your moment and save your emotional energy for those missing for the next time you see them.
It’s ok for “it” to be less than perfect.