Is “Common Wisdom” simply a self-fulfilling prophecy? Can we simply make something–especially something bad–happen just by expecting it?
Or, perhaps, there IS a wizard behind the curtain who makes sure that things come to fruition when we say that they will!
Many of us fall prey to the “that’s just the way it is” mentality when we allow ourselves to underperform. The idea that we simply don’t have the time, money or other resources to do what we’d like to do…that’s too easy in my book.
Coach, you choose what to pay attention to. You can make different choices.
Things are generally not predetermined.
Find a way to be your own Wizard.
“Be present,” “listen with your heart,” and other phrases have become popular throughout our busy world. We move so fast, and do many things (at once) that listening to others often seems like a challenge (perhaps because we don’t even know how to listen to ourselves).
Create the conditions for better listening. Stop and make time to listen with all of your physical senses, and also actively practice putting judgement aside and get to the feelings and perspective of the speaker.
Why are they saying what they are, and what do they need from you? Often, it’s simply to be heard.
What if i’m wrong? What if she gets mad at me? …I might feel badly afterwards.
We resist the DEMAND that we talk out loud about our concerns, needs and commitments. So often the need for safety and calm rather than storm overrides the demand that good open, honest and direct communication will provide relief and a chance to move forward.
Let’s make practicing honesty and communicating our needs, and simply what we think–even if we might not make everyone (even ourselves) happy–a part of our team training. Start with the coach.
We admire the people who have “made it,” been “successful”: make the most money, have the most happiness, win the most games…
We point to those people as role models, teach their tactics, employ their strategies, read their books. Usually we’re fired up and maybe it even works for a time. However, we seldom can bring their stuff into our stuff at a level that really makes a difference for us because we have to think about using someone else’s language. The time it takes to translate makes it stilted and removes the flow and often the efficacy.
Create your own dictionary and teach the language to your people. Once everyone in your organization speaks the same language without exception and looks at the world through the same lens you’ll be able to take big steps.