So, there is probably a really good way to do the thing that you need to do. Others have done it before, I’m sure, and you can get a lot from their experience.
You can research the best way to do this thing, you can rely on your own experience or you can ask a friend.
In my experience, I find that relying on my own best practices, for that thing or other similar things I’ve done before, is the best way to get a satisfactory result.
If I think about the way I like to do things, the way the best things have worked out for me, I find that there aren’t really an unlimited way to do things…
So, do something, see how it feels when it’s done, redo it, and go from there.
The best way to practice, is to practice.
Remember that time…? It seems like it was easy, right? You showed up and got it right.
Your successes are likely more complex than you remember them.
You worked hard, you considered options that ended up on the cutting room floor that you don’t even recall now.
Sometimes we think our former selves had it easier, or the competition wasn’t as tough as it actually was, or we were just better then…
Give yourself credit and get to work on the complex concern in front of you now.
I like to provide assessments to projects. Set goals, make a plan to achieve them, get to work and then see how you do.
Yet I wonder if we need to add a quality definition to everything? Is a rating always important?
Do we need to know how our day was in relation to yesterday or a week from now, every day?
Maybe we can let ourselves off the hook one day at a time.
These are not the good old days.
Look for the happy people.
Happy people are more productive and better to be around. I don’t have the research at hand, but this is true in my experience.
Happy does not mean, giddy, laugh-at-every-little-thing people, to me it means people who are satisfied, who somehow communicate that they know that everything is not ok, and they are ok with that.
Happy means satisfied, in a good way. Dissatisfied is the realm of a constant, “I wish things were different,” approach to the world.
One can work to be “better” and not be dissatisfied, for sure, but meanwhile I aim to be comfortable with the process. It’s a happier way to be.
Everything happens before it happens.
Your perception of “the present” likely is actually around things that have already happened or are about to happen.
Is it possible to Live In The Moment? Sure, but the moment includes time that’s gone by and things to come.
Let’s not get caught up in whether we’re doing a good job of being in the present or not and enjoy whatever the experience is, with the people we’re with.
Teams only go around once.
You probably suggest lots of great mental tools to your players. Most sport coaches understand the value of a strong mental game for their athletes.
Visualization and other forms of imagery, controlled and intentional breathing or being in the moment, understanding self-talk and other techniques are in most coach’s toolboxes for their players.
How about you? Do you teach these things? Do you use those same tools for yourself?
Are you leaving something on the table in your own preparation?
Why not use the same tools you ask players to use?
Accepting yourself or others as they are is important for well-being…yours and theirs.
As the saying goes, “give me the serenity to accept things I cannot change”. This is step one. If it’s someone else’s “stuff”, you cannot directly change the current situation. If it’s your “stuff”, you still can’t change the now.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t not work to get better (double negative noted).
Working to be different in the future is not the opposite of acceptance.
New tires for your car might not be in your budget at first glance. But, is having a car that’s drivable of value to you? If you don’t have tires you don’t have a car, really.
Usually we ask about the price rather than the value. To us. At this time. That’s really the question.
If a thing or service is valuable to us at this time, we’ll find a way to cover the costs.
What do you need that will really add value in your world?
What can I get you?
How can I help?
What do you need?
Asking (and answering) these questions is not always easy and not always at the front of our mind. As people we typically think of our own needs and wants first, and as coaches are wired to see the answers for others. So, asking for input and demanding that others consider what they want and need–and hold them to it–is a novel idea.
The idea of serving your people isn’t simply bringing them ideas and gifts. It’s allowing exploration and demanding that they show up for themselves.
Are you a teacher? How about a learner?
Are you looking for ways to do things better, or looking to be sure people do things your way?
Coaching is a noble profession, and many of us take pride in being teachers! We teach our sport and we teach “life lessons” through our programs.
What lessons are we learning?
Deep into my coaching career I looked up and realized that I’d been teaching for years and not learning much at all. Yes, experience served as a great teacher but I was not doing any intentional learning. And, certainly I had not asked my people to teach me.
Learning to be a learner has been the most important factor in turning a career into ongoing passion.
What about you?