Coach, do you value competitive kids? Of course. Do you want your teams to know how to compete? Sure. Will you work hard to cultivate competitiveness in players who have been working on only their own game for too long? Yes.
It’s important to value competitiveness as a team, and not in a negative way between teammates. Pushing others to “win” in a practice setting, to beat teammates is not good unless it comes from a place of love.
The sentiment of, “i’m here to make you better, teammate,” is a great way to push you team to compete, but think twice before you encourage kids to “win” at the expense of other kids, in practice.
If you make it, then you’re a fake?
Making it ain’t all that. Faking it’s just what we do. It’s all a fake operation until we test it, believe in it and make it a must-do for our personal system. Even then you might not be fully bought in.
So, yes, “fake it”, but don’t call it that. Be, then do, then you have what you have.
Rinse and repeat and love the mess!
Forward momentum is enhanced by testing, guessing, making mistakes and accepting partial credit or incomplete solutions.
We’re told to work intentionally now, but…be ok with thinking about the future, but…not too much.
We pass along this approach to our players, too.
The present is important, yet fleeting. It’s easy to either be complacent, or consistently dissatisfied.
Do you feel this? Do you pass along this angst to your team?
Working to be our best, currently, is really all we can do.
It takes an inner peace (conscious or not) to be satisfied right now, to not ruminate on the past or solely anticipate the future. When “what about…” comes into play we become less content.
“It’s going to be even better next year,” is dangerous thinking.
Too often we forget how hard we worked. We forget the struggles and disagreements, the fights, even. We forget the pain of workouts or the disappointments of injuries.
Our brains opt to deemphasize the hard parts and glowingly highlight the good times and success (wow, what fun!).
This is results-focused thinking without any real definition of “better”, or a goal to reach for and the process that it will entail.
We want to feel all of the glory, the excitement, the upsides and the wins. We want this as individuals and as teams. We love the feeling that success will be easy, but we know better.
It was hard the last time, and it will take a similar bit of hard work the next time. Go.
So they say. For most, “the time is now”, means that pretty soon we’d better get ready to try to act. Pretty soon, as in: not right now, but sometime soon.
Mindfulness is the word of the moment (get it?), “live in the present” is something we encourage and cajole our future selves to do, and yet things don’t get done. They get thought about, planned, to-do listed…but done?
It’s time to start doing. Share it, invite comment, see what others think, see if it works. I’ll go first.
Understanding that getting the right people in the room to start a project or season is key. We know that.
Taking the time to understand that you, as a leader, have much control over who’s there is not as common.
It’s not chance. You get to pick, even when it feels as if you don’t, usually you do.
Teams are made, not born. Go.
Who are you building? Why? “Using sports to teach life lessons” is a common coaching comment. Is this activity or byproduct? Is one more important than the other, and can you even keep them straight?
There are many questions you may ask yourself and others surely are asking them…have you decided which questions to answer?
Know what’s important to you and how to take steps toward achievement. That’s it. Work on the why and the how, and the what will show up.