The idea of “not arriving”, that there is no such thing, provides me so much calmness.
We are so often chasing something, without realizing that it’s the chase that is the important part.
Churchill is quoted as saying, “To improve is to change, to perfect is to change often,”.
How often can you assess and tweak and change often?
Where to start?!
Start the work and then you’ll find out.
When you do work you’ll soon learn what inspires you and where the needs are…and where the others are.
Start doing things that you’re passionate about. Start showing up for yourself, taking steps…
What can I get you?
How can I help?
What do you need?
Asking (and answering) these questions is not always easy and not always at the front of our mind. As people we typically think of our own needs and wants first, and as coaches are wired to see the answers for others. So, asking for input and demanding that others consider what they want and need–and hold them to it–is a novel idea.
The idea of serving your people isn’t simply bringing them ideas and gifts. It’s allowing exploration and demanding that they show up for themselves.
Are you a teacher? How about a learner?
Are you looking for ways to do things better, or looking to be sure people do things your way?
Coaching is a noble profession, and many of us take pride in being teachers! We teach our sport and we teach “life lessons” through our programs.
What lessons are we learning?
Deep into my coaching career I looked up and realized that I’d been teaching for years and not learning much at all. Yes, experience served as a great teacher but I was not doing any intentional learning. And, certainly I had not asked my people to teach me.
Learning to be a learner has been the most important factor in turning a career into ongoing passion.
What about you?
Coaching Is Hard. Fact.
Wanting both to control “all of the situations” and have teams in which people were making suggestions and giving input…these two things struggle to coexist.
Are you really giving your people room to own things on your team? Do they have actual ability to impact change? Do you have a history of soliciting input, asking for ideas?
If not, can you really expect them to own this thing that they don’t really have a piece of?
Why are you not making the team better, intentionally, at every turn?
You’re probably not intending to make it worse, you’re likely not making it worse…but why not mean to make it better?
All the time.
What’s the challenge for you? What is in the way?
These are such great questions to ask yourself and your people.
The ones who matter.
In pro sports, players often talk about thankfulness for the team owners who gave them a chance, and the fans who show up for them. They work “for” them.
The owners are up the ladder. They have control and steer the ship on the highest level. They set compensation and get to decide direction.
The fans are more fickle and demand the best each day (especially when they are in the stands), they lift players up and criticize freely.
In what ways are your players owners and fans in your world?
Having fun at work is great.
Most of us spend a lot of time “on the job” and it’s unfortunate when it’s all drudgery.
But, I don’t think we need to infuse some “fun” into the mix just because.
In what ways do you or could make your work more playful? And not just for yourself, but for your people and players, too.
The fun that’s ping pong and cookie decorating is less impactful that the fun that comes from achieving goals or seeing improvement.
Make “game goals” out of your hour-to-hour work.
Get things done and see how you feel.
Nothing is automatic.
Learning doesn’t happen for students because a teacher works hard or does their best.
Learning doesn’t need permission either. It’s going to happen if the conditions are right.
The teacher (formal or otherwise) can do the condition-creating and push the odds higher, and a motivated student surely helps.
The fun part is that we often learn something completely unexpected.
Keep looking for the learning.
Most often we think of experiences as nouns.
They are things that happen to or around us, or even events or activities that we take part in or get to be a part of.
That was a great experience!
Let’s try to celebrate and embrace the verb experience, to really feel the things, to be active in the doing.
By being present in the experiencing might we shape it, feel it more deeply and allow it to shape us? Maybe we’ll learn more about how to help others experience these things, or make the next time even more impactful.
…seems better than just talking about it later.