The Gap

What’s possible? If you got your act together, what could it look like?

You have enough time, energy, excitement and people on your side… what could you get done.

What’s really in the way?

Try what you tell your kids…act as if…

Act like you have nothing to lose (really, what do you have to lose?), even nothing to gain aside from whatever it is that’s around the corner on your way to possible.

That’s the only act you need to have together.

RSG!

Baby Steps

Adults trying new things are a lot like babies learning to walk…stand up, fall down, reach for something to lean on, fall down again…sometimes your legs just wave in the air because you can’t even roll over to try again.

But, you do. They do. Roll over, stand up, fall down…

Some can essentially do a push up before they stand up. How cool is that?

Eventually, most babies get moving, on their feet.

What’s your method?

Keep Your Eyes on your Own Paper

So. Many. Distractions.

So many good ideas all around us.

So many people have thought of so many things one could do, or say, or even be! How can we possibly keep up?

Start by writing your own stuff. Just think, then write. Then revise, and write some more.

Even if you don’t want to write…start with the thinking. If you did have your own system, your own great ideas, what would they be?

Better With Age?

Everyone says that their early stuff was crap and that they get better with practice. It’s a thing to say…”well, when I started out I was pretty terrible…”. I don’t always agree. Just because I’ve changed my mind on things doesn’t mean it was subpar at the beginning.

Regardless, it’s a good idea to consider: what are you doing well now that will get better in the future with good systems of practice and revision?

Get ahold of some strengths and see if you can become truly great!

Changing Your Mind

Do you think about things you thought about last year in the same way you did then? If so then you likely haven’t thought about them since, and perhaps that means that those topics are not so important to you.

Your opinions can and should morph regularly.

Will your ideas automatically get “better”? Perhaps not, but they will evolve in some way, just by the time passing, and the effort you put into them means they’re different. The active consideration matters.

Are you changing your mind, changing the what and the how of what you think, or what you think about? Which is more important?

Boiling It Down

Good coaching, is two things, IMO:

Curiosity

and

Clarification

Find out what’s required for success (define that, too) and what drives people (especially yourself).

Then boil down all of the things that your team will need to achieve the standards you decide upon, be clear about what’s expected along the way, and get going.

Start with a notebook and an open heart.

Problem solving

Most situations are not like arithmetic. Here there are right answers that can fairly easily be deduced. 2 + 3? Easy.

These types of problems are not interesting, and won’t stimulate you or your organization to move toward “better”.

It’s the interesting problems that move us along; it’s the noodling on things is really where the work gets done.

How often have you started to think or talk (usually we’re talking more than thinking) about one topic and come out the other side making moves about something completely different. It’s the process of consideration that makes the difference.

So, by taking problems away from people and offering easy solutions or giving away answers without asking for any work we’re doing a disservice to the world.

Ask hard questions of yourself and those around you and watch how the thinking makes progress.

Sometimes You Stink

Plain old stink. It’s painful.

Those who can find the good in the suck are plentiful, and I admire that. And, sometimes there isn’t any silver lining.

And that’s ok, too.

Being able to both feel the pain and get past it (not get over it, just past) is not always easy but, as always, time doesn’t care about your pain.

Keep working. Have a system that doesn’t get derailed by failure. Otherwise you don’t really have a system.

Being vs doing

What do you do?

It’s a question many of us ask and get asked all the time. How do you answer?

Do you say, “I plan practices,” or “I read and sometimes respond to incredible numbers of emails”?

As a coach you likely say some version of “I’m the _____ coach at ______,” or “I coach [insert sport here]”. That sounds like who you are more than what you do. Which is it?

Do you care about the difference?

Saying, “I create the conditions in which people and teams learn to inspire others with action and empathy,” seems a bit much…but that’s a great thing to be. It’s who I am, I am the one who builds such a set of conditions.

There’s a lot to DO, but I’d rather BE.

Is This It?

Are we at the end of history or the beginning of the future? Perhaps neither, we’re just here?

In many ways people think that “today” is the best version of a thing, idea, product, etc. that’s possible. Of course we know that things are changing, that evolution of that thing or idea has occurred, but we often accept the way we do it as the final answer.

What if we were able to view each day simply as an opportunity to make the thing even better tomorrow? If the thing was a relationship with ourself or another, a team or a player…could this be a dose of optimism that might propel us even further?