What can I get you?
How can I help?
What do you need?
Asking (and answering) these questions is not always easy and not always at the front of our mind. As people we typically think of our own needs and wants first, and as coaches are wired to see the answers for others. So, asking for input and demanding that others consider what they want and need–and hold them to it–is a novel idea.
The idea of serving your people isn’t simply bringing them ideas and gifts. It’s allowing exploration and demanding that they show up for themselves.
Are you a teacher? How about a learner?
Are you looking for ways to do things better, or looking to be sure people do things your way?
Coaching is a noble profession, and many of us take pride in being teachers! We teach our sport and we teach “life lessons” through our programs.
What lessons are we learning?
Deep into my coaching career I looked up and realized that I’d been teaching for years and not learning much at all. Yes, experience served as a great teacher but I was not doing any intentional learning. And, certainly I had not asked my people to teach me.
Learning to be a learner has been the most important factor in turning a career into ongoing passion.
What about you?
Yes, you know better.
Your experience has allowed you to learn so much and you can really help by telling your people what they don’t know.
Spending lots of time telling people what to do next and how to do it is your speciality and man, does it work! Your people are off and running.
Running away! Being talked at is not a successful way to improve skills. Maybe you even talk about growth mindset and how experience is the best way to learn…and yet you don’t allow your people to make mistakes and learn by experience.
Yes, you, Coach.
Talk less, ask more and let’s see what they come up with.
Should you work on your weaknesses or bolster your strengths?
Do you know what pieces of your game are in those categories? Are they the same as they were at some point in the past? Does it matter?
How about considering the things that are central to who you are, making decisions about what direction to go in and then doing what you said you would?
Too often we spend time and energy thinking about what we’ll think about and little time doing things and learning from the outcomes.
Possible? When you reach that place you call best, is there no better?
Thinking about superlatives…I think that they are overused.
So many things are the best ever, or will never work and get things done every time.
I’m ok with my best now and seeing what happens the next time.
Let’s do our best. Great advice and we should strive to perform at all times.
Big picture, however, I say let’s working on who we are, and how we impact others with the totality of who we are and how we impact them.
Step one is to gain awareness of who you are and what makes you tick. Your bottom line internal self is always there, work to know and understand it and then you can make improvements if you’d like, or simply accept and be great.
“Find your passion” is heard everywhere these days. It’s as if our passions are hiding on us…ollie ollie oxen free! (or is it ‘in come free’?)…come on passion show yourself so that the rest of my life will be great!
COME ON! Really?
How about going full steam ahead with your current passion? What are you really in to now? What do you want to learn more about, fuel your body with or build?
Have faith in and support your current ideas and see where they take you.
Recently, I went on a paid excursion in which there were a few add-on things for sale. Like wetsuits for snorkeling in the really warm waters of a tropical place.
“I really recommend it,” says the young guide who has become our friend on the microphone. She had gained our trust and so many forked over the $ rental fee for the wetsuit top and felt smarter for doing so.
That got me thinking about trust, and following people without feeling the waters. Literally. How do you become the person others trust? Is it your voice, your knowledge, your reputation? What needs to happen to damage that or make others doubt you? Can those things turn on a dime?
If you want to be trusted, or need to be trusted, what do you have to say, or do, or be? Is that enough?
As always, I encourage you to think these things thru. Use your #10minsaday
The social media era we live in allows so much great, positive and useful sharing of knowledge.
It also allows us to regurgitate others’ ideas without thought of what WE think, and how this idea might impact OUR work.
I’ve resolving to stop simply “liking” or “sharing” quotes, concepts or articles I see online. It’s too easy and I’m not getting the most out of it, nor are my teams or others who pay attention to the things I post (if there is anyone on that list!?).
So, I will consider and at the very least comment on these things so that I gain insight into what I really care about, become more judicious in my sharing and most importantly, develop my own WHO and WHY more fully.