Who are you building? Why?  “Using sports to teach life lessons” is a common coaching comment.  Is this activity or byproduct?  Is one more important than the other, and can you even keep them straight?

There are many questions you may ask yourself and others surely are asking them…have you decided which questions to answer?

Know what’s important to you and how to take steps toward achievement.  That’s it.  Work on the why and the how, and the what will show up.


We admire the people who have “made it,” been “successful”: make the most money, have the most happiness, win the most games…

We point to those people as role models, teach their tactics, employ their strategies, read their books.  Usually we’re fired up and maybe it even works for a time.  However, we seldom can bring their stuff into our stuff at a level that really makes a difference for us because we have to think about using someone else’s language.  The time it takes to translate makes it stilted and removes the flow and often the efficacy.

Create your own dictionary and teach the language to your people.  Once everyone in your organization speaks the same language without exception and looks at the world through the same lens you’ll be able to take big steps.


Big win!

Milestone wins are exciting recognition of activity–you’ve had measureable success–and are often good ways for people to thank you, or to compare you to those they may think are better than you.

Each game counts as one and the next game should be respected just as much as the last one,  just as the losses should be.

Long term success may mean you’re a “great coach”, what are the other factors? How will you improve those? Do you have a road map? Can you teach others?  Define your version of success and get on it.


Midseason Form

What’s that?  Is that a good thing–hitting on all cylinders–or is that a stopover to great?  If so, how long will you stay?

Hitting your stride, finding the next gear…if you could quantify (and you should) these things, what would they look like?  How will you know?

Create a measurement systems and practice regular assessment (ask everyone, not just yourself or your leadership) on the way to continuous improvement.

Add Value

If you’re not giving, you are, in fact, taking away.  There is no neutral in being a part of a team.  “I’m not doing anything wrong,” is not viable reasoning.  There is only moving the team forward or holding it back.

Every team member can find ways to consistently add to the team.  By talking openly about the NO NEUTRAL RULE, coaches can help kids to understand the concept, recognize all sorts of contributions and celebrate!

Focus on growing the team experience by demanding that everyone be aware of what and how they can add.